If your child misbehaves, stay calm and give him clear instruction to stop misbehaving. Stop throwing. Play with the toy on the floor.
Use specific praise with your child if they stop. Thank you for playing with the toy on the floor.
If they dont stop throwing toys, redirect them by showing how to play with the toy safely, and say, I love it when you play with your toy on the floor.
Later, let your child overhear you talking about their good behavior with the other parent or adult. You would be so proud! He played with his toy safely on the floor. Do this indirect praise even if its a make-believe phone call, but make sure the child hears you.
Endless Discoveries Child Development Center in Glen Rose and Endless Discoveries Child Development Center in Saginaw state in our Parent Handbook that all discipline must be individualized and consistent for each child, appropriate to the childs level of understanding, and directed toward teaching the child acceptable behavior and self-control.
Our teachers use only positive methods of discipline and guidance to encourage self-esteem, self-control, and self-direction, which include using praise and encouragement of good behavior, reminding a child of behavior expectations daily by using clear, positive statements, and redirecting behavior using positive statements.
The four main points in Endless Discoveries Discipline and Guidance Policy are:
Treat each child with respect. Respect promotes positive attitudes toward caregivers and parents, as well as other adults in the childs life.
Explanation of inappropriate behavior and expectations of appropriate behavior. This promotes an understanding of the behavior the caregiver wants to see from the child as well as why inappropriate behavior is not accepted.
Consistency of rules among all caregivers. Consistency helps the child see that limit-testing is not successful.
Discipline consists of redirection for smaller children or removal from the activity and friends for older children. Removal is termed Chill-Out Time, and the caregiver expresses to the child what the child did wrong, how the caregiver expects the child to act better, and the choice to act better when the child is finished thinking about their inappropriate choices. The child is in control of their own Chill-Out Time.
These methods are proven to be successful when used consistently, and Endless Discoveries Child Development Center in Saginaw and Glen Rose are proponents of the parenting techniques taught by Elaine Mazlish and Adele Faber in their book How to Talk so Kids Will Listen . . . And Listen So Kids Will Talk.